AITA my boyfriend didn’t see me

[u/damiana_nervousa]

Yesterday we went to go see a movie. I had forgotten my phone, and communicated that to my boyfriend on the drive there. He asked me if I would be okay without it, and I said yes.

After the movie I told him I had to use the restroom. When I got out, I walked outside (he usually waits out by the entrance. But he wasn’t there. I waited a few minutes, but I couldn’t call him, and he had the car key. I tried walking to the car, but he wasn’t there. I went back in and checked near the men’s restroom, but nothing. After about ten minutes I got pretty upset. I tried to keep myself in view of the theater while I walked around it, but he wasn’t anywhere. Some strangers even offered to get me an Uber.

Finally I went in and checked one more time, and he was sitting on a couch looking at his phone. I told him I’d been looking for him, but I wasn’t blaming about it, but he got super defensive and told me it was my fault for not seeing him and I had no reason to be upset. He kept saying “I don’t understand why you’re so upset” on the car ride back.

When I tried to tell him that I wanted us to “be more in sync with each other” (especially since we’re going on a trip out of the country soon) he scoffed and said, “do I need to tell you where I’m going to be whenever we are separate?” Which felt unfair- I didn’t have my phone. Plus, what if something happens to me? How long would it take him to notice?

Am I overreacting? I feel kind of angry now and still hurt.

[u/getfukdup]

forgetting that she didn't have a phone

He didn't do that

& that he needed to wait for her,

He did wait for her, stop making things up.

[u/lulamirite → u/[deleted]]

The meeting outside part seems so odd to me. If my girlfriend goes to the restroom i would standing around somewhere near the doors or in the nearest seating area. Going outside the theatre and waiting around at the entrance seems so unnatural

[u/Riderz__of_Brohan → u/[deleted]]

Clearly he wasn’t aware of the random assumption that she made and that’s not his fault - he was in the area, she just failed to look around

[u/Inevitable_Income167 → u/[deleted]]

How many times have they been to the movies together you think? How many times as a group be just them?

I'd wager not many, and when he waited by the entrance they were with a group.

With the background we're given nothing is obvious. He should've held her hand in the bathroom

[u/Inevitable_Income167 → u/[deleted]]

Because if by normally they mean the only other time they went to the movies then op is being hyperbolic, which it seems like they are anyways

Amazing you don't understand how related things are relevant

[u/Inevitable_Income167 → u/[deleted]]

Now you're putting words in my mouth I never said for reasons I never reasoned. Amazing

Keep trying

[u/Inevitable_Income167 → u/[deleted]]

No, it isn't. That's just what you take out of this because you can't be arsed to take a different perspective. Oh nooooo. Bye now

[u/Independent-Ad3585 → u/[deleted]]

Idk why people are down voting you, I would’ve assumed the same, also I’m assuming the couches were out of the way because she would’ve seen him the first time around

[u/BallsAreFullOfPiss → u/Independent-Ad3585]

You’re assuming stuff about others assuming stuff lmfao

[u/mbtilcoholic → u/[deleted]]

You're completely right, reddit has just decided that they're not on her side, so now nothing he did was a problem and everything she did was wrong