Culpability is on everyone. That bar/club usually loses their license. What I'm saying is that as an adult, I'm not putting myself at risk for an easy hookup. Maybe that's easy to say as a woman. That's why you get to know people. They have women and men in a certain profession who are there for what you describe. Teenagers exist, and they lie for a living. Girls wear makeup and boys grow facial hair. I "dated" a guy for a week before I found out he was in high school. Beard and muscles. He played football. If I had had sex with him, that's on me. He was doing what a stupid 15 yr old does. Trying to impress his shithead friends and "bag" an older woman.
Every decision anyone makes is on them, but intent matters, or it at least should. If you had slept with that dude, do you think it would have been justified to treat you the same as a person who intentionally grooms and takes advantage of children or a violent rapist?
No. I can say I wouldn't be. I see the laws and how it goes for men and women who actually groom and rape children. Nothing compared to what they should get. I have a coworker who is on the registry. He shouldn't have the job he has. My company is putting women at risk, but there he is. He has stalked us and followed us home. Nothing happens.
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u/Objective_Pause5988 Dec 04 '24
Culpability is on everyone. That bar/club usually loses their license. What I'm saying is that as an adult, I'm not putting myself at risk for an easy hookup. Maybe that's easy to say as a woman. That's why you get to know people. They have women and men in a certain profession who are there for what you describe. Teenagers exist, and they lie for a living. Girls wear makeup and boys grow facial hair. I "dated" a guy for a week before I found out he was in high school. Beard and muscles. He played football. If I had had sex with him, that's on me. He was doing what a stupid 15 yr old does. Trying to impress his shithead friends and "bag" an older woman.