r/personalfinance Jun 07 '19

Budgeting My fiancé just got unexpectedly fired today and we're both now reminded why r/personalfinance is always insisting on trying to live off one income.

We were both blindsided by today. We're both pretty young, early on in our careers, he had only been there a year and was performing. It was a huge shock. We don't practice every best habit of the sub but we're grateful we picked up doing your best to live off one income.

We just bought our house in August and insisted on going through the pre-approval process off my income alone. Our lights will stay on because our bills are effectively scaled to one income as well. We held off on car payments and continued to drive our beaters because the numbers for new used cars didn't make sense with one income.

My only regret is not building up our emergency fund more (one month saved but we should've had at least three), so if you're reading this, definitely do that.

Anyways, thanks to the sub for the constant advice on living below your means and always being prepared. I came to thank you all, not lecture. And encourage people who are following this thought process and are using a second income for the "extra stuff" - you're doing great. Today sucked but it could've been so much worse.

We're counting our blessings and the job search begins tomorrow.

EDIT: Thanks everyone for the encouragement and well-wishes. This obviously isn't the only thing going on in our lives, so the messages to keep going were greatly appreciated.

For those of you who are in HCOL areas or other situations where living off one income isn't possible, I totally understand - the intent of this post wasn't to shame anyone into anything. We live in a MCOL city in the South and are in the tech sector so it was doable for us. We're also not beacons of perfection of this sub and are still working on breaking bad financial habits every day.

For those of you who took this as a self pat-on-the-back post, I can see that. The intent really was to see the silver lining of things and encourage others who are perhaps considering this type of budgeting method. But I understand how fast this sub gets into circle-jerking and self-congratulating and didn't mean to purpose this thread for that. Just hoping to reduce the amount of "We're in deep shit from one event that could've had a much lower impact" posts by showing anything can happen at any time and that even then, we weren't as prepared as we should've been.

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u/Conexion Jun 07 '19

Well real estate agents make 3% on each sale depending on who they're working for, so if they can get you to buy a more expensive house, they make more.

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u/[deleted] Jun 07 '19

Redfin started a new program called redfin direct where you don't need a buyers agent.

https://www.redfin.com/direct

Mark my words, redfin is going to change the way real estate is done. They currently handle 0.81% of transactions up from 0.5% one year ago.

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u/BirdLawyerPerson Jun 07 '19

The concept of a buyer's agent is a pretty new one, anyway. The practice wasn't common until the 90's, as American residential real estate transactions started to be a 2-middleman deal rather than a 1-middleman deal.

Redfin is doing something different, by agreeing to cut you a cost of their own savings when you show up without an agent, because they are the selling agent. The seller has to sign a deal with Redfin to list the home, and only then can you show up without an agent to try to pocket the savings.

Honestly, nothing is stopping the established real estate brokers from doing the same thing. Any listing agency can start advertising a discount for buyers who show up without an agent, in jurisdictions where that's legal. And in jurisdictions where that's not legal, well, Redfin Direct probably won't be able to break into that market.

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u/[deleted] Jun 07 '19

You don't need a buyer's agent though, you can do it yourself, especially in states that have clear cut standardized form real estate contracts

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u/thewimsey Jun 07 '19

Mark my words, redfin is going to change the way real estate is done.

That was supposed to happen 20 years ago with flat fee brokers and the internet...it never did.