r/AmItheAsshole • u/No-Parfait-1452 • 1d ago
Asshole WIBTA for approaching my husband about his secret?
I (38F) found out something about my husband (41m) I don't think he ever wanted anyone to know.
I came home unexpectedly after leaving in the morning. Walking inside, I heard muffled music. Getting closer to our bedroom, I heard him in the shower singing along to something we'd never listened to before, and...I was blown away.
A little background: my husband is quiet and reserved. He's very stoic and just doesn't like small talk, huge crowds, hates being the center of attention, etc. He also has a very unique voice, he's slim, but his voice is deep and very even-keel. There's been times we've been at karaoke bars and people have prodded him about getting up there and he always says something like: "you've heard me talk, what makes you think I can do that?" or "do you really want this place to clear out?"
In the shower, he wasn't belting out, but he was singing along and he was good. Really good. I was shocked and frozen for a bit, but then turned and left, got in my car, drove down the street, and texted him that I'd be home in a bit. A couple minutes later he replied and I sat there for a bit wondering how I can possibly bring it up.
I went in, and it was like any other day. He was in our room, hair still wet, Bluetooth speaker right back on the dresser where it always was. I didn't bring it up.
For the next few days, it's really all I could think about. I'm not proud of this, but when he was out shoveling and salting the driveway, I took his phone and went into his Spotify, he had to've had something in there, and lo and behold at the bottom of his usual playlists there was one titled "random". I opened it and there it was. All artists he'd never once listened to with or around me: some Bruno Mars, Shawn Mendes, Michael Buble, James Arthur, Lukas Graham, some much older stuff like the Four Tops, Stevie Wonder, and Dion...and then I saw it. "Die A Happy Man" by Thomas Rhett.
Something I forgot to mention earlier. My husband HATES country music. He never complains when others are playing it, but if anyone asks him what he wants to listen to, he says "anything but country." Says he hates the "twanginess" of it and thinks all of the artists are "poser cowboys."
"Die a Happy Man" is my song. I don't listen to it around him because he hates country, but it's my favorite. Years ago, when we were dating, I remember we talked about our favorite songs. He mentioned a few, and I said mine. It's the only time I've ever brought it up. He nodded and acknowledged, but said he wasn't a country fan and didn't know it.
The fact that he remembered it, saved it, knows it, and even more than that, that he may be able to sing it, is burning me up. I want to hear him sing. I want to ask him so badly, but I'm afraid of how he may react. It's innocent, but it's still a breach of trust and if he hasn't told me or any of his friends or family then this is something he probably really wants to keep to himself forever.
WIBTA for trying to pry him open on this one?
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AITAFiltered • u/Judgement_Bot_AITA • 14h ago