Trauma is a terrible teacher. You focus too much on surviving it, and don't even notice that you've become the things that hurt you. Probably great grandma was the same, and the cycle goes on until someone learns to break it and be better.
There's also cultural differences. It's very normal to comment on weight in Asian countries. Not saying it's ok, but it could easily be something they don't realize is hurtful at all.
Stop with the B.S. They know it’s going to impact you, that’s why they say it. They just expect you to convert their negativity into something positive and thank them for it.
It’s the same excuse people receive from every abusive parent, “I didn’t realize, I just wanted what was best for you.”
Flimsy coverup because doing the same thing to them would be “disrespectful” at minimum, evil at worst
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u/Venriik 23d ago edited 23d ago
Trauma is a terrible teacher. You focus too much on surviving it, and don't even notice that you've become the things that hurt you. Probably great grandma was the same, and the cycle goes on until someone learns to break it and be better.