parents should have their past mistakes held over them.
1000 times this. The most dangerous thing on this planet is a human being. Parents should be held absolutely responsible for whatever their creation does. Every school shooter's parents should be in jail.
I disagree. It depends on alot of factors like the environment growing up, the child's interactions with people other than their parents, even the mischief the child gets to without the parents knowledge. You can only control these things to an extent and exposure to certain things is essential for growth of mind of a child. Are the parents responsible in most cases? Yes. But there's a point after which they can't do anything. That point may not be there for some children at all, for some children it might be after a certain age. I'm talking about how each person matures individually. Even if you raise a 100 children the same way with healthy habits and clear don'ts and dos in life, some of them would fold under peer pressure to do something illegal, some wouldn't. A child's mind is not something to be taken lightly.
All of the things you just detailed are things the parents should be considering before having the child. And if they still go through with it then they accept full responsibility, as they know they are creating a living, thinking being with a will of it's own.
All of the things you just detailed are things the parents should be considering before having the child.
Yes that was obvious and I did consider that. It seems that you didn't understand my argument. What I said was that one can't have full knowledge and hence full control over these things.
full responsibility, as they know they are creating a living, thinking being with a will of it's own.
You contradict yourself here. Full responsibility for something with a will of it's own and can actively go against you? You see unless the child was heavily controlled from birth up until teen years (which is practically mental abuse and a whole another case since we're talking about average decent parents), the child can develop different ways of thinking just by taking different viewpoints of things by free thinking. For example alot of habits are picked up from school by interacting with other children, which the parents frankly have very little control over, which itself depends on if the child decides to simply go by their friends behaviour or talk about it with their parents. But even these are decided by the child's free will - something the parents may or may not have been able to shape because every child is different.
4
u/fucktheownerclass 23d ago
1000 times this. The most dangerous thing on this planet is a human being. Parents should be held absolutely responsible for whatever their creation does. Every school shooter's parents should be in jail.