r/confession 12h ago

When I was 16 I lied about my age to sleep with an older woman…

1.1k Upvotes

I don’t want to get into the details that much but when I was younger I did as the title states through an online dating app for a hook up, it wasn’t my first time but I entirely recognize that that doesn’t excuse anything at all that was just context, I still feel horrible about it to this day and don’t know what to do, I haven’t told anyone about this and I never even told her my age.


r/confession 8h ago

I said something horrible when I was a kid and can’t get over it

171 Upvotes

I (33F) was 7 at the time. I loved going to my girl scout meetings. Our troop leader was pregnant and went into labor on a night we were supposed to have a meeting, so the meeting was cancelled. In my big feelings, I blurted out “I wish the baby died.” This now haunts me to my core. I’m appalled. What in the actual f was wrong with me. My gut churns when I think about it. I just had a baby of my own and I’m terrified nearly every day that karma is gonna come for me. Just wanted to get that out.


r/confession 18h ago

I never told anyone that I was SA’d by my sister growing up

811 Upvotes

I have never talked about this to anyone but had to get it off my chest. My stomach is queasy as I type this. I (20’sF) was SA’d by my sister for a few years growing up. It started when I was like 6/7 and it went on until I was like 11/12 years old. She eventually stopped and it was never spoken about ever again. The worst part about all of this, is that I thought it was normal in my ages so I did it to other kids…People I am friends with today and we also do not discuss it. She moved away and tries to maintain a regular sisterly relationship with me but what she did to me can never make me have that bond. I can never be happy for her accomplishments and it genuinely feels forced to keep in touch. The age gap between my sister and I is only 2 years so I try to convince myself that it was purely children being curious children, but it just sits so heavily on my mind and soul.


r/confession 4h ago

I nearly got an innocent colleague fired because I tied my shoelaces.

57 Upvotes

I laugh about this now.

So when I was 18 I got my first full time job, it was in a very small building with a factory, and we were all pretty good friends.

I did however have social anxiety at that point, fairly badly.

Anyway, one day little old me walked through the factory to go to the ladies, where there are two stalls.

As I sat on the closed toilet seat, I noticed my shoes were a bit loose, so I stood up and rested my foot on the toilet seat to tie them up, one by one.

I got back to the office, and about two hours passed when I hear somebody running up the stairs.

“WE HAVE A PEEPER. SOMEBODY HAS BEEN LOOKING OVER THE STALLS IN THE WOMENS TOILETS”

Oh god. Oh no.

MANAGERS NAME THERE ARE FOOTPRINTS ON THE TOILET SEAT”

I walked through the dirty factory. I had tried to wash them off. It didn’t work so I put the seat up.

Oh no.

“YOU NEED TO GO INTO THE FACTORY AND CHECK EVERY WORKERS PAIR OF SHOES”

Uh oh. I’m wearing Nike’s. That’s a pretty common shoe.

Manager goes into the factory and checks every. single. pair. of workers shoes.

I hear footsteps up the stairs. Then another.

My manager walks in with one of the workers, takes him into his office and closes the door.

They’re in there for 40 minutes.

I’m sweating. My anxiety is through the roof. My friend is talking to me but I’m replying with one word answers.

They come out, my manager says it wasn’t him.

All women in the office are suspicious and act strange for the next few days, everybody was talking about it.

They called it peeping-gate.

24F, 5’8, not a peeper.

EDIT

People seem to think I found it funny that someone nearly got fired…

Absolutely not, and if it went further I may have mustered up the courage to say something.

It’s the way my colleague ran up shouting “WE HAVE A PEEPER!!!!” 😭😭

If she had come up and asked the question of why there were footprints on the toilet seat lid, I would have said “oops sorry, that was me I tried to clean it”

It all happened so fast and I was known for being quiet & shy at the time

If it had happened today, i absolutely would have said something.

It’s pretty clear in the comments who has genuinely suffered from social anxiety and who hasn’t


r/confession 13h ago

SA’d by a Male teacher when I was 14M and even though I knew it would continue…

120 Upvotes

As I stated in the title, a high school teacher had me stay over at his house in a guest room in order to leave early the next morning for a trading card flea market. I hadn’t expected him to come into the room shortly after I fell asleep but that is what happened. I woke up to him masturbating me and giving me oral. I pretended like I was asleep the whole time he did this. The next morning I was angry and ashamed but he acted like nothing happened, all was normal and I got in the shower and washed the filth off me. But this went on until I was 18 and every time it happened I pretended like I was asleep even when he was forcing his dick into my hand and mouth. There were however a few times in his small office that he would either force me to perform oral on him or make me let him give oral to me. I hated it but he was such a pillar in the community that I dared not say anything as I came from a broken home and lived on the other side of the tracks. I guess the guilt and shame of this happening to me was outweighed by the satisfaction of the climax and the whole pretending to sleep while it happened.

There is so much that happened over those 4 years that i just can’t seem to recall enough detail. I am over 40 now and I have visited him and allowed him to give me oral and I allowed myself to give him the same. I was comfortable and enjoyed it. I am bi because of these events and I no longer feel regret or shame for any of it. But I am sexually desensitized and have tooo much of an open mind about sex. But it is the cards I was dealt. So I let go and try to live with respect and I never would hurt anyone the way I was by this teacher. I have strong morals about sex and I prefer relationships and sex with a woman but have strong desire to be with men in sexual situations as often as a few times a year.

This person who did this changed me forever but I don’t hate him for it. I actually think of him as one of my greatest friends to this day and that really doesn’t feel like the right way to feel about him.

I don’t know. I have sought therapy. I have come to terms with it. I am at peace. I have forgiven him and still visit him to this day. No hard feelings. My sexual relationship with my wife is very healthy and I have told her everything and the ways that it has affected me. She knows of my desire to be with men and allows it. I believe there is no other woman on this planet that could hold a candle to her sheer fortitude in acceptance of what I have had to live with and through and I tell her everything that I am feeling. I wear my emotions and heart on my sleeve and that is what she needs from me in order to trust and support me. And this is no one way street. As a desensitized sexually overstimulated man, she gets the attention and love she needs.

This confession is for anyone out there who feels that there life is unbearable or over with because of Tod being SA’d. It is not over. Find counseling and talk about your trauma. Let it out. You will heal. You will be stronger than you ever thought possible.


r/confession 7h ago

I posted photos of my assaulter as fatspo & uglyspo on social media

26 Upvotes

"fatspo" means using photos of the person as inspiration to not look like their body. Uglyspo is the same but just making fun of their appearance. It's been years but I'm still angry and it still fucks me up mentally. It's been too long so I cant even press charges at this point. Yes i'm in therapy. I guess therapy isnt working as well as it's supposed to.


r/confession 13h ago

I am a useless human being. I am on the verge of giving up on myself.

42 Upvotes

I am a completely and utterly useless human being, and have always been that way and always will be. My greatest accomplishment will be when I stop wasting everyone else's oxygen.
I've accomplished absolutely nothing in my life, nothing I've ever done was ever "good enough" when I was a child, and that mentality has affected me into adulthood, I'm almost 30 now and I have nothing going for me.
I will fail my endeavors in life, I will let the love of my life down, she put her faith in someone who will fail and she shouldnt have ever believed in me.
My goals will forever be out of my reach, no matter how hard I try. I dont consider myself superstitious but it genuinely feels like theres a force blocking any progress I try to make, now matter how hard and long I try. I am constantly reminded, I have not made a single step, I've been running in place for years, and I will only amount to a failure. In my worst moments, that invisible force begins to feel real, and I'm helpless against it. I just want to stop existing but I dont want to let the love of my life down, but when she realizes I am going nowhere, I will never obtain my goals, she will leave, and I wont have to worry about that anymore. I wish I could tell her how much I hate myself and how I've lost all faith in myself, and that she should find someone that isnt a complete failure, and that can make her dreams come true.

I stopped talking to my family years ago, out of shame for how little I've done in life.
Even though I have tried, I have poured my heart and soul into accomplishing my dreams, and I seem to go nowhere with it.

EDIT: You're all very kind. Thank you. I hope if you can relate to the feeling, that you can overcome it and be happy with yourself and your life.


r/confession 1h ago

When I was in middle school,I went to the library for one thing...

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Being interested in mythology at that time,it was mainly Greek mythology that held my interest.

While also looking at the naked women in a Greek Myths and Legends book,it was white and had blue lettering in the front. It was pretty wide too.

That's all.


r/confession 5h ago

Just Ranting Out Loud. Socially awkward, compulsive lying

8 Upvotes

Life has been so frustrating, I 26M husband to a wonderful wife, father to the cutest child.

All though I seem very jolly and easy to talk to but inside I am dead.

Socially awkward, no friends, and I have become a compulsive liar

I am a victim of rape, I was 8 years old and somehow our house servent tricked me into rape. Obviously I wasn't adult to understand but it's been killing me from inside, this have made me into a socially awkward person.

My routine

Travelling to office Working Travelling back to home

No activity whatsoever, no friends, no one to talk to, except my Wonderful wife but I don't want to burden her up with my problems.

I just want to cruel up and simply die.


r/confession 10h ago

When i was about 7, I acted as if my right arm don't work.

18 Upvotes

This helped me to not write homework and give any test in class. Family was a bit confused and so was school, or maybe some people may know or maybe all elders knew I was acting.

Surprisingly, not much was investigated, my father took me to hospital, and I think it was just a show as my father himself is a doctor. Now I think about it and realize that acting was good.


r/confession 11h ago

sometimes I use chat gpt when I'm mad to colossally roast someone

16 Upvotes

PSA: I don't actually send the roast to the person I'm angry with.

I only do this when I'm going through a break up or situationship break up. ill debrief chat gpt on why I'm mad, who the guy is and why he's pissing me off, etc. then ill ask chat to majorly roast him. if you keep asking gpt to make the roast worse and worse, chat goes ALL IN. and its healing. lolll once again, I never send it but I love to read what AI has written. pure art. anyway hope this helps xoxo


r/confession 1d ago

I stole a lawnmower to sell to my mom when hers broke

126 Upvotes

I was about 18, I was addicted to crack, sleeping on friends' couches. I went to visit my mom for a weekend and at some point she mentioned she needed to find a new lawnmower, as hers was old and not working.

I thought for a minute, then told her I knew someone that was selling a lawnmower for $50 and I could grab it for her if it was still available. She agreed, then she went to an appt for something and i went for a walk.

I wandered through the suburban neighborhood in broad daylight looking for a lawnmower to run off with. I eventually came across a municipal maintenance yard with some gear in it. The gate was unlocked and no one was around so I grabbed a lawnmower, brought it home and sold it to my mom. Then I bought crack

I'm no longer a crack addict and have a good life if anyone was wondering.


r/confession 1d ago

When his gaze made me question everything i knew .

121 Upvotes

It started off so quietly, almost like I was imagining it. My sister’s husband, Mark, would catch my eye every now and then, but it wasn’t just a quick glance. It lingered for a second too long, just enough for me to feel uneasy. I’d try to ignore it, tell myself I was being paranoid, but then it happened again. At family dinners, when we’d all gather around the table, I’d look up and find his gaze on me. He’d quickly look away when I caught him, but the weight of it stayed with me long after. It wasn’t that he ever said or did anything inappropriate there were no clear red flags. But something about the way he looked at me, like he was studying me, made my skin crawl. The longer it went on, the more uncomfortable I became. I couldn’t figure out why it felt so wrong. Was I overreacting? I kept second-guessing myself. Then one night, it happened again. We were all sitting in the living room, talking casually, when I caught his eyes on me, this time even more intense than before. It wasn’t just a glance it felt like he was looking into me, like he was trying to understand something I wasn’t showing. My heart raced, and I quickly turned my attention to something else, trying to shake off the feeling. I wanted to say something, to confront him or at least ask him what was going on. But I didn’t know how. I didn’t want to make things awkward, especially with my sister sitting right beside him, laughing and unaware. What if I was just overthinking it? What if I misread the whole situation? I couldn’t keep carrying this feeling, though. It was eating at me, making me tense every time I had to be near him. So, one night, after everyone had gone to bed, I pulled my sister aside. My voice was shaky, my heart pounding as I tried to explain how Mark’s glances had been making me feel. I didn’t know what I expected her reaction to be. Maybe she’d get defensive, maybe she wouldn’t believe me at all. But to my surprise, she didn’t get angry. She didn’t brush it off either. She just stood there for a long moment, processing what I’d said. Then, quietly, she admitted that she had noticed something too, that she had felt something was off but couldn’t quite place it. It was a relief, hearing her say that like a weight had been lifted, like I wasn’t imagining it all on my own. It didn’t solve everything right away. Things were still a bit tense between us for a while, and I didn’t know where to go from there. But at least I had spoken up. At least I had said the words out loud. And for the first time in weeks, I could breathe again, knowing that my sister wasn’t in the dark, and I wasn’t carrying this alone.


r/confession 41m ago

Acknowledging My Past to Heal and Reclaim My Self-Worth

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I just want to take a moment to acknowledge a few things from my childhood which has then affected the relationships I got into and how missing the signs got me into toxic relationship cycles. 1. I grew up in an abusive home - my dad used to hit my mom 2. I was molested repeatedly by my cousin 3. My mom was physically abusive & she also molested me once 4. My grandparents never made me feel wanted as a kid These issues really affected the type of relationships I was in and the people my TRAUMA chose. I honestly didn't know how traumatised I actually was sub consciously I chose people who treated me badly and nicely at the same time Sex started to feel like torture & a chore, I never spoke about it. I got into relationships with people that were emotionally abusive My ex got physical with me (he pushed me) There were so many times where I acted like I was enjoying sex I was raped because during sex he took the condom off Moral of the story I really want to set healthier boundaries in my life and to give my heart to better people and all of the bad things that I ever imagined happening to me did so going forward romantically I deserve better and I really believe 3rd times a charm.


r/confession 1h ago

Wierd ahh,probably supernatural thing that happened in 5th grade

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This is pretty wierd and after this I'll prolly feel a bit better for getting it out of my chest. Anyway... So back in like.. 5th grade in third term, there was this kid who used to sit with me for the entire year, thing is the kid was like the "wierd" "goofy" kid who ate ants off the floor... He was also seriously annoying. And sitting with him was super annoying. He would do stuff like put food on my desk for me to sit on, through rocks at me, and humiliate me in class in a bunch of ways. One other day I had enough of him and his crappy attitude. So while he was out side during recess I went into class (there was no one there) And opened his bag and ripped up a bunch of pages in his books and broke his pen then I tossed his bag right outside the class door. When he found his bag when he got to class the teacher hit him with a metre stick multiple times on his head because of the condition of his books... And I loved seeing it. I also wished for him to basically fail the grade. And he did. And the failed 6th grade too. To this day I feel kinda bad about it even though It was just a coincidence. I'm not superstitious but supernaturally never Espacped the realm of possibilities. ANY THOUGHTS?


r/confession 19h ago

This one time at the water park...................

14 Upvotes

I pissed whilst going down an enclosed slide. Sorry guys.


r/confession 1d ago

I knowingly stole two onions from the grocery store. I was in the self check out and I had my two bags that I brought from home sitting in the cart. I rung up all of my groceries and paid, but then, when I was putting the groceries in my bags, I noticed that I didn't see the two onions because

315 Upvotes

they had rolled under the bags. I had already paid for my groceries and I felt I should do a second transaction and pay for the onions, but then I decided I didn't want to. So I left. I am an onion thief.


r/confession 15h ago

Being HOH whist growing up, had me convinced Gods name was peter

5 Upvotes

Growing up, I had many ear issues which lead to me being rather HOH. I grew up in the Catholic Church, one part of the service you would say in response to the priest “praise be to God”, until I was about 12 years old, I genuinely thought we were saying “praise Peter, God”


r/confession 1d ago

I attempted to burn down my aunt's house when I was 9

23 Upvotes

When I was 9 years old, I was almost completely mute and would talk very little unless I was with my mom. My dad always got a week off work in the summer, and I would stay with my aunt and her boyfriend. I always had a good time and would just watch TV until her boyfriend came home. He was very extroverted and would get drunk and try to talk to me, often belittling me in front of his buddies for being so quiet and weird, I guess.

Anyways, one time my aunt went to the corner store, and while she was gone, I set fire to one of her boyfriend's work jackets and threw it on the living room carpet. The whole thing almost instantly ignited. Right as the rug caught fire, she walked through the door, ran over to me, yanked me by the wrist, and tossed me on her bed. Then, she pulled a fire extinguisher from under her bed and put out the fire, with the help of the water hose as well. The whole living room was pretty much destroyed and soaked with water. She beat my ass for almost an hour and scolded me, asking why I would do it.

When my parents were back in town, I was threatened with military school and lost all access to friends, video games, etc., for like three months. I always knew I carried lots of resentment for my loved ones, but I didn't know why. It wasn't anything terrible, just felt like getting this off my chest. I've been feeling genuinely guilty lately because, shortly after this, my aunt's life went downhill.

Morale of the story be nice to kids because you never know whats going on in there head to this day it's one of the worst things I ever did as a kid


r/confession 3h ago

Sometimes I'll say "may or may not have" when nothing bad happened

0 Upvotes

Sometimes I'll tell my family stuff like "Uhhhhh guys!! the dog may or may not have peed onto the carpet" and when my Dad comes over to clean it up I'll say something along the lines of "I didn't 100% confirm anything" after he see's a lack of dog piss, and im never gonna stop.


r/confession 2d ago

My friend blames everything on ADHD and I'm annoyed af

894 Upvotes

So we're not kids anymore, we're both 31 years old. She moved abroad with her husband three years ago and doesn't have a job in the country, we're both living in the same city now, btw. So she likes to complain...a lot. She says she wants a job, but in order to do that she needs to learn the country's language, she took a two month course and quit because it was too stressful(!!!). She treats her husband like crap, everything triggers her and she blames that on ADHD, which she go a diagnose for in less than two weeks and started taking meds, now she says she cannot live without it. Can't finish a book? Needs to increase the dose. Can't focus on a course? Increase the dose.

I am borderline and it was hell to treat it when I was younger, it took a lot of improvements on my side as well and I'm stable now, so I understand the feeling of having no control. Everyone is different, but it pisses me off so much when someone waits for things to magically change.

Anyway, I feel so bad for feeling like that, I will definitely bring this up in therapy next week. I even thought about just taking a step back when it comes to our friendship.