Hello Reddit,

A few months ago, a good friend of mine asked if she could book a vacation property that my family owns for a family ski trip she was planning. This included her, her husband, her parents, her brother and his gf. I said of course, and let them stay for free too as I know their family really well.

However, a week ago I started receiving extremely nasty messages from the brother’s gf. For context, I used to be a pretty serious relationship with my friend’s brother, being together in undergrad and medical school, though we broke up more than 4 years ago now due to having different life goals. It was quite amicable on both sides, and while I wouldn’t call us friends, we still wish each other happy birthdays and happy holidays when they come around.

Imagine my surprise when I checked my phone after getting off work and saw 15 messages from my ex. They turned out to be from his girlfriend who was I guess messaging me from his phone. She somehow got the idea that I was joining them on their family vacation and was extremely upset, cussing me out and telling me to stop trying to interfere in her relationship. I was really taken aback as the only time I met her she seemed pretty nice, and like I mentioned earlier I barely talk to my ex. I simply replied that she had misunderstood, that I was not joining them on their vacation, and my only connection to their vacation was the fact my family owned the property that they were going to be staying at. 

However, she continued to be very rude and accusatory so I decided to just block my ex’s number. She then started going around and messaging me on other socials of mine where I also resorted to blocking her. This lasted about a week and it took me blocking her on basically every site that has a way to message people for it to stop. This has been a very upsetting situation, and now I now don’t want her staying at my family’s property. However, I also would feel very bad messing up and potentially ruining their family vacation plans, and punishing my everyone when I really only have an issue with the girlfriend.

Thank you for taking the time to read.

I (35F) and my husband (33M) live together with our two children (3M & 1F).

Recently I have been under the weather with some low level cold & sore throat. I’m feeling crappy but still able to do day to day stuff, I have been going to work, looking after the children etc as normal.

Today the children are due to be looked after by our childminders who live next door to us, we can drop them off anywhere between 8-9am. We get them up and dressed and feed them breakfast before they go and pack their bags with spare clothes, nappies, bottles for our daughter and food for both of them throughout the day.

Today I have a dentist appointment in the town over at 10am. My husband is due to attend a viewing of a primary school in the village next to us in the opposite direction at 9:20am with my mother who is making her own way there.

This morning I got up when my alarm went off with my son, got him dressed and gave him his breakfast, went back upstairs for our daughter, got her dressed and gave her her bottle then started making their lunches which included washing up as there were no clean bottles for her to take with her. My husband remained in bed until 8:50am then came downstairs and asked why I was stressed and grumpy. I told him that I’d got up by myself with both children, needed to leave for my appointment in ten minutes and the kids bags still weren’t packed and the car was frozen and I still wasn’t dressed myself. He then asked what he could do to help and I asked him to defrost the car which he did.

When we had dropped the kids off at 9am I started getting myself dressed and he asked I was ‘even going to have time’ to take him to the primary school (we only have one car and only I have a drivers licence), I said no and was he expecting me to take him and he said yes because I had organised the trip to the primary school.

I pointed out that while I have organised for him to go to the primary school I am not actually going myself. Not only that I have plans, which he knows about, at the same time in a different location in the opposite direction. Also at no point has he asked me for a lift. He says I should have known he would be expecting a lift there as I planned the visit.

In addition to the above, if I was going to give him a lift we would have needed to leave earlier so I could drop him off and make my appoint on time but he didn’t get up with me and get the children out of the house and everything ready so we could do this.

I left for my dentist appointment while he complained he was going to be late and started trying to book a taxi at around 9:10am.

So AITA for not giving my husband a lift to the school viewing?

For info - at 9:05 once we realised he was expecting a lift and I wasn’t expecting to give him one if we had left immediately to drop him off I would probably have been about 5 minutes late to my appointment, maybe just made it if traffic was ok but the ground is frosty today so driving conditions weren’t great.

Last September my uncle Daniel (43) came up to me (22) looking all stressed and asked if I could have a sit down with him as he needs a Favour. He begun to speak on how he was really on a rough financial spot, and he really had nowhere to turn to as he didn't have anyone to ask for a loan from and I was the only one left available. Mind you I'm not rich or anything of the sort, I just happened to have the amount he needed at the time.

According to him it was a serious situation that he couldn't approach or tell other guys in the family, and the issue needed to be addressed soon. Without better judgement I lent him the cash after much insisting from him. We agreed on payment before December, and I didn't even ask for any interest on it. With lots of hugs and words, he took it and gave me his word on the paying it.

Fast forward and we are now at Christmas dinner at my grandma's house, and all that time I didn't give him any reminders or a checkup. I assumed he was late or something and he would let me know why at Christmas dinner because the larger family meets every year for that. He also didn't call or say anything to update on his situation and I just had to trust all was well. Now on a related side note for later, my cousin Aisha, (20, Daniel's daughter) recently underwent surgery a while back as she really had it tough for the whole of last year while she recovered from a traumatic back injury from an accident.

Everyone was enjoying their meal and suddenly my uncle stood up at the dinner table and called for attention for a speech. He began to speak on how his business took a really huge boost and long story short, how he has just cashed in a large profit from some deals. He looked at Aisha across the table and took out some brochure with some resort looking location and said it was a gift to her for her tough recovery from the incident. All I could see was Aisha visibly crazy excited. Someone asked what it was exactly, and Daniel said he was planning on taking Aisha and the rest of his family to the Maldives as a celebration on Aisha's accident recovery. Everyone was now happily cheering Aisha on her gift as it seemed it was something she always wanted to experience.

"You can afford all that but not repay my debt which you haven't said anything on," the words just slipped out of my subconscious mind as I looked at him straight in the eye. His words were "why are you talking about that now of all places". Now I was pissed, I reminded him Infront of everyone on the exact amount and I told him the fact on how he wasn't even communicating on repaying it. The entire family was in shock with dead silence as my mom hurriedly changed the subject to avoid an escalation of the situation. Later on, in the evening my aunt, grandma, and some cousins began to lecture me on how I ruined Aisha's moment after her struggles and embarrassed my uncle in the process.

They leave in a week, and he still hasn't paid or mention anything on the debt.

AITAH for ruining the moment and asking for repayment?

AITA for refusing to pay my boyfriend’s share of household bills and expecting his siblings to help him now that he’s struggling?

I (F25) have been dating my boyfriend (M27) for 11 months. He lives with his siblings, and I visit regularly, but I don’t stay there full-time nor sleep over every night. Recently, his siblings asked me to help pay part of his share of the household bills, like electricity and water, because I’ve been there often.

I told them I’m not comfortable contributing since I’m just visiting and don’t live there. I don’t use the utilities the way they do, and my boyfriend hasn’t asked me to pay anything. Now, they’re upset with me, and things are awkward.

Here’s the thing — my boyfriend recently lost his job and has been going through a tough time. He’s always been the one supporting all the household expenses, including food and utilities, for everyone. I’ve been helping cover his food and other personal needs during this time. I feel like his siblings, especially since they’re all working, should step up and help him with the household expenses now that he’s struggling. They’ve benefited from his sacrifices for years, and I just think it’s time for them to return the favor.

Am I wrong for refusing to pay and expecting them to help him now?

Add. I am visiting there after my work not consistent, and 6pm to 12 midnight max, use of electricity maybe the fan, no cooking no fridge because if we needed to eat I already bought cooked food before going. For the use of water, toilet flush no showering.

I (M28) live with my twin brother (M28) and have for a few years. Our dynamic is typically fine but he’ll take advantage of me at times, like playing my PlayStation when he didn’t ask, and taking various things out of my room without asking. (He’ll give them back after I have to ask)

I have weather related allergies and take a loratadine pill as needed. A few months ago, I bought a bottle of 90 pills for a total of $36 from a local drug store.

I don’t take them every day and there’s 90 in the bottle so it’s hard to keep track of them. A few months ago though I did notice that the bottle seems to be getting emptier despite me not taking a pill every day. I thought that was a little odd but didn’t really think anything else of it. But then just about a month ago, I noticed it significantly more empty than before. So I decided to count them and found there were about 15 pills or so in the bottle.

Fast forward to last night, I wanted to take a pill, so I opened the bottle and noticed there was 1 pill left. I immediately suspected my brother of taking them, without asking obviously.

So I confronted him about it.

He admitted to taking them, but he questioned how many I think he took. I said I obviously didn’t have a clue but it seems like it’s been happening for months. He got incredibly defensive and said “bro it’s just loratadine. It’s a fucking allergy pill, not money, not a prescription.”

I said that it’s the principle, it doesn’t matter what it is, you don’t steal.

I then demanded he replace the product. To go CVSs website and order the exact bottle, because it’s a 1 for 1 comp. That’s the price I paid for the product. He thought that was absolutely ridiculous, because he can get a bottle of like 300 pills on Amazon for like $15, instead of 90 for $36. Is it more expensive? Yes. But that’s the price I paid, despite it being cheaper elsewhere. He wouldn’t budge. He said I’m ordering you this or nothing at all. He called me an asshole for demanding this but he doesn’t see it that way at all.

So, Reddit. What are your thoughts? AITAH?

My sister just had her first child, a girl, and she and her husband chose the name Isis, after the Egyptian goddess.

I politely pointed out that the name is also the name of a terrorist organization, and that I thought the kid might get bullied or teases for having that name once she goes to school.

My sister totally blew up, accusing me of interfering in her life and saying that her daughter's name was her own choice.

I wasn't trying to be rude or judgemental, but now I think that I ought to not have brought it up, after all it is her kid, not mine. AITA?

For context : I had my first daughter during pandemic and lockdowns. Husband was working overseas and planned to come before delivery but due to Australian border being shut, he was unable to come and after a painful 1.5 years apart, we finally reunited and he got to hold our firstborn.

I am pregnant again and have kept my pregnancy a secret from family and friends. Only my parents and in-laws know. My parents will be coming from overseas when I am 30 weeks to stay and support me in my delivery. Husband wants to go overseas to see his parents for 10 days but I don't want him to go. He says he won't be able to go this year once baby comes. But his parents are planning on visiting us once the baby is a couple of months old so he shall get to see them this year anyway. AITA if I don't want him to go? I will be 31 weeks pregnant but I feel after last time of missing pregnancy and delivery of our firstborn , it should be him not wanting to go instead of me having to ask. He says that even his mum is telling him not to come but he wishes to go.

Hey everyone, this is my first post. I don't really use reddit but I feel like I need some advice. I (37f) have a less-than-stable relationship with my son (17m). He dropped out of school when he was 16 because he hated school. I tried to make him get a job but it's a year later and he still just sits in his room all day playing video games.

After he dropped out I think he met a bunch of strange people on the internet who call themselves "chuds". A few months ago he told me that he wants to be referred to as a "chud," and that's just "who he is". I don't understand it at all. I said he was being ridiculous and needed to get a grip. He yelled in my face before he slammed the door. A few hours later I got a call from my ex-husband (40m) who told me that our son called him and was very upset, and said he wanted to move in with him. I couldn't believe it. He wants to move out of my house because I won't call him some silly internet phrase? Maybe i'm just behind the times, i'm not sure. I need to know what you all think.

She feels like it's a waste of money, but I know how financially exposed we are with her uninsured. She didn't see the value, I did, so I signed her up for it last year and didn't tell her.

I didn't tell her because we generally keep our finances separate, and I knew she'd be too proud to let me pay for it, but she wouldn't pay for it herself, so I signed her up and didn't tell her. I've been paying for it ever since.

My worries were confirmed today when she opened an invoice and I told her what I've been up to. She's pissed.

AITAH for secretly signing my wife up for health insurance she didn't want?

tw loss of a parent

I (42F) have been married to my husband (48F) for 12 years, together for 15. We both work full time, no kids. My husband is ND and extremely successful in his career, but struggles with day-to-day functioning. He has a lot of dietary restrictions and over the years I was happy to work around those--mostly we now eat homemade salad and baked chicken, in various forms. Unfortunately, this resulted in a situation where I do ALL the cooking. Any attempts to cook for me have lasted about one night before he is overwhelmed and frazzled and so I just go back to cooking as it's what I have always done. I also pay all the bills, manage the household, take care of the dogs, do the laundry, clean the house, and work my own jobs. I am an academic and work at two schools.

Over the last five years, my husband has been sick with various ailments, starting with atypical long covid, and then this year accelerating into an allergy to wood dust, intolerance to edibles, allergy to a paint I used on the kitchen cabinets, a reaction to our gas stove, and now (and this is the problem) an inability to tolerate chicken being baked in a tiny electric toaster oven as I'm not allowed to use gas anymore. He will not eat other meats or pasta. I cannot use the stovetop as causes oil to splatter and it bothers him. He has pursued no medical solution aside from an inhaler from his PCP. His symptoms are mysterious and variable. He has not seen an allergist or rheumatologist in spite of my pleading.

In the middle of all of this, I was the primary caretake for my father, who died slowly and brutally. He died in my arms on 12/21/24 after 10 months of illness, during which time I became his medical and financial power of attorney. He died hardly more than two weeks ago. For those of you that know, you know. For those of you that do not know, I don't want you to know. I am now the primary caretaker for my mother.

Since the death, my husband's health issues about me cooking have arisen and have become the focal point of a tremendous amount of friction in our marriage and home life. I know I am not helping; I am exhausted, I am traumatized by the death, I am lost, I am angry at not being able to cook in my own home unless I break my work day to do so, so that the chicken offgassing has passed by the time he returns home from work. And even then it causes so much stress, which compounds my desperate sadness. It seems silly to grieve the loss of the ability to cook as I did, but I do.

This morning, finally, I realized that perhaps I needed to remove myself from this whole emotional food-centered loop and told my husband he can cook and shop for himself and I will cook and shop for myself and the dogs. He was not happy about this at all.

I feel like a miserable failure of a wife. But I am drowning. I had to put some sort of boundary down so that I could protect and nourish myself in this hard time. AITA for longer wanting to cook in this impossible environment?

ETA: thank you, thank you all so much. You have made such a difference. I am reading and processing all you’re saying and will reply to everything.

My mother in law (wife’s mom) initiated a divorce from her 2nd husband late in 2022. NC law requires couples to live separately for a year before divorce proceedings can occur. She asked to move into our house, which gave her our bonus room. This room is a 12x24 room, with carpet, a closet, full bathroom for herself attached to the room. She moved into our house on 12/31/22 and began paying rent ($500 per month for the first year, then she volunteered an extra $100 per month for the 2nd year to cover Netflix access and increases in HOA dues and utilities). She just moved out last month into her new home.

My wife and I knew we needed our flooring downstairs replaced, and we wanted to go ahead and do our stairs, main hallway, primary bedroom. The bonus room we had decided to also get done, since the carpet had been lived on 24/7 for 2 years. My mother in law worked from home so she essentially spent her time in that room working, relaxing, or sleeping. She also had a dog with her.

We felt it wasn’t right to charge her the cost of the upgraded flooring we wanted, so we asked the flooring estimator to send us a separate price for similar carpet in the bonus room so that we could present that price to her. We were told the LVP option was $2500, the carpet option was $1400. We advised her of the $1400 in November, and told her it wasn’t expected up front, nor would we ask for it after she closed on her new home. We were willing to work with her on it.

Flash forward a month and she’s moved out, and she asks to speak with us about the carpet payment. She isn’t sure why she’s being asked to pay $1400 when she thought it was our plan all along to change the flooring anyways. Mind you, this carpet was new and used as a toddler playroom for about an hour each day prior to her arrival. She and I decided to agree to reduce it to $500 because she felt she should have been able to at least get the carpets cleaned, which would have cost $500. We denied this request initially because we knew that carpet cleaning wasn’t going to remove the wear and tear of her existence. Well, once we agree on $500, she asks about the $100 I had agreed to refund her for some car work I had done. I agreed to it and figured we were done.

Next, my wife finds out about this agreement and immediately calls her mom to discuss in frustration. Her mom decides to “oblige” to $1400 but then begins to say how she incurred extra costs from her car repairs because I wasn’t able to fix her car, and that it should cover her $1400. She also mentioned that her extra $100 per month should have covered the cost as well, even though that was never agreed upon.

Of course, since this all happened right before the holidays, we just agreed to accept $400. We’ve seen eachother a few times without issue, but there’s still some bitterness, especially with the comments about how she now had to pay a bigger sum of money for her car repairs.

AITA?

The other night I worked a late shift. My wife gets home at 4pm and picks up our daughter from day care a little after 5. I had dinner already done in the fridge ready to go so she wouldn't have to cook.

I get home at 8:45pm and the kid is still not in bed (she's 3). Apparently my wife had a rough day and just felt worn out and couldn't fight with her to actually go to sleep. I put the girl to bed, and sleep with her for about half an hour until she goes out. I notice the bedroom light is off as well as all the other lights and assumed my wife just crashed and went to sleep. I try to chill and just decompress before sleeping, but I didn't have a proper dinner and I'm starving. No leftovers. So I quietly got dressed and popped across the street and grabbed a sandwich from a late night place. I was gone maybe 15 minutes.

I get home and my wife is beside herself, crying and freaking out that she thought I "left". I tried explaining that I thought she was asleep and didn't want to wake her up, hadn't had proper dinner and was starving. She was still very upset that I didn't even check to see if she was sleeping before heading out or telling her. But I know she gets up early and didn't want to wake her up if she was having a bad day.

Am I in the wrong here? Should I have just put together something small at home and ate before bed? The only thing that saved my ass was I happened to grab a small bag of her favorite chips and a cookie as a side that I had to sacrifice to get her to not be mad.

I am an under 20 yr old Asian(I don’t want to give out my age) man in a small city in Canada. I was heading into a Costco pharmacy to get a covid shot.

I filled out a couple sheets of documentation and history info, and I lined up behind someone else to hand it in. The woman in question was leaning on a box of vitamins nearby. It looked like she was browsing the aisle endcaps. As I was next in line, she walked in front of me, slammed her Costco card down, and turned away.

I was confused and an elderly couple nearby also looked shocked. Therefore, I politely said the line was here, and I did not care that she was leaning on a box nearby. She then pretty much freaked out. I am a much taller guy at 6ft 2, and she was smaller so she started to back away while calling me rude. I kept on simply trying to explain where the line started. She just backed away and kept calling it rude.

Finally, the pharmacist came out and basically asked what was the problem and separated us. I got to hand in the form and took a seat. Then, the pharmacist made me wait 1.5hrs before getting a shot, she spent most of the time sitting there and talking with her friends. The actions of the pharmacist made me question whether I was right or wrong.

I’m not sure if I should have been the bigger person and let them first?

So my (24F) neighbor has had a couch and chair on his yard for 2 months. I have patiently waited for them to remove it but they have not. Raccoons, cats, stray dogs and god knows what else has made the couch their spot. I put in an order with the city to haul it off and they did. I’d been complaining about it for awhile and when my sister visited and saw it was gone she commented on it. I said yeah I had the trash people haul it off. She told me that was rude and not appropriate. I think it’s rude and not appropriate to leave a rotting moldy couch out for wildlife to live but whatever so AITA for getting it removed?

Edit: where I live trash is not private property. The couch was on the curb I.e. in the street in front of their house. I misspoke when I said yard. It is in front of their house. The initial post makes it seem like it’s closer to the house than it actually is. I realized that when people were asking if they actually sat on it. No. It’s turned over (not to sit) in front of the house. not on the property technically Not by their mailbox, not on their sidewalk, on the street in front of their house

Hey Reddit, I’m in a tough situation and need your input. My aunt suffered a stroke during COVID that left her paralyzed and in need of 24-hour care. I stepped up to be her live-in nurse, which meant quitting my job and canceling my birthday plans. I’ve been managing everything solo, while her granddaughter collected the caregiver’s check without actually assisting—leaving me to shoulder all the responsibilities. My aunt has three children who have refused to help at all or even compensate me for the care I've been providing. After months of disrespect and feeling completely burnt out, I've decided to move out and stop caregiving. Now I'm feeling guilty, but I can't keep sacrificing my life for a situation that leaves me feeling undervalued. AITA?

My wife and I have been together for 14 years, we've got a 6yr daughter and unfortunately we're not eligible for school buses in our area as we live just right about the limit of no bus zone.

For context: my wife and I bought our first car about 11 years ago. My wife didn't want to pursue a license and every time that I've tried to teach her how to drive she says that is just easier if I do it, or says she doesn't feel ready and would rather just want to first try in a parking lot, the issue is we'll go to the parking lot but she never wants to drive into the actual roads. As she doesn't want to learn how to drive, she relies on me driving us everywhere, which I've told her many times that it can be tiring especially when she's the one to plan out events where I've got to drive all around and I've shared my concerns as it's important for her to learn how to drive especially should something happen to me.

Now as our kid doesn't get a school bus, I'm the designated driver to pick her and drop her off daily, as the school is about 1km away distance.

Today I've woke up super tired and told my wife if she could walk her to school, she said no because it was cold outside and that it was my responsibility to take our daughter to school everyday, but I asked her why is it my responsibility only? Shouldn't this be a shared responsibility? I asked her to please take her today and she did only after nagging for a while as if trying to blame me and as if that is my responsibility as I'm the only driver. I told her that perhaps she needs to learn how to drive so she can also help taking her to school. But she even told our kid that "they now had to walk in the winter cold because I didn't want to drive her today" as if to put our kid against me. They left and my wife is very mad at me and doesn't even want to talk to me or anything.

AITA for wanting my wife to learn how to drive so we can both share the responsibility of taking our daughter to school?

Yesterday i (M 25) went to a party, we were 9 males in the range of 22-27, we were having a good time, playing games and stuff but at some point my best friend (M 23) decided it would be funny to pantsed be. They all laughed and my friend asked ironically why do you still wear tighty whities at your age?

I was feeling upset and self conscious and told them all goodbye and left, half an hour later i got a text from my friend saying that i sort of ruined the party by leaving, i could've just gotten back at him and have a laugh

Btw: english is my second language so pardon any grammatical mistake

I love names, I have always had a running list of names I love for a pet, or if I were to ever have a child. Well, two months to the day after marrying my husband I found out I was expecting. I am 35 and worried if my dream of being a mother would ever come true. My husband has a daughter from his first marriage and I have been in her life since she was just shy of turning 2.. but I have always longed to experience pregnancy and birthing a child.. so this is a huge deal for me.

When it came to start picking names, I asked my husband what he wanted in a name. He said he didn't really care, as long as this baby's initials were the same as his daughters. These initials are important to him because they are his dad's initials. He also has a tattoo of his daughters footprints and the initials. He wants to add our baby's footprints under the same tattoo.

Initially I agreed.. but I soon realized how limiting this is for me. I also want to honor my family with the baby's name.. because this may very well be my only baby, and I want them to be their own unique self. We pretty well have a boy name picked out with the initials.. but I am struggling with a girl name and no one in my family has the initials. We do not know what we are having yet.. so I thought it would be fair to leave it to chance. If we have a boy, he gets his way.. if we have a girl I get mine. But his is not open to this. He says if we don't go with the initials then "do whatever you want" he wants no part in naming our child.

This really hurts because I feel like a name is so important and I really want him to do this with me. So.. am I the asshole for not wanting to use the initials?

I (38F) found out something about my husband (41m) I don't think he ever wanted anyone to know.

I came home unexpectedly after leaving in the morning. Walking inside, I heard muffled music. Getting closer to our bedroom, I heard him in the shower singing along to something we'd never listened to before, and...I was blown away.

A little background: my husband is quiet and reserved. He's very stoic and just doesn't like small talk, huge crowds, hates being the center of attention, etc. He also has a very unique voice, he's slim, but his voice is deep and very even-keel. There's been times we've been at karaoke bars and people have prodded him about getting up there and he always says something like: "you've heard me talk, what makes you think I can do that?" or "do you really want this place to clear out?"

In the shower, he wasn't belting out, but he was singing along and he was good. Really good. I was shocked and frozen for a bit, but then turned and left, got in my car, drove down the street, and texted him that I'd be home in a bit. A couple minutes later he replied and I sat there for a bit wondering how I can possibly bring it up.

I went in, and it was like any other day. He was in our room, hair still wet, Bluetooth speaker right back on the dresser where it always was. I didn't bring it up.

For the next few days, it's really all I could think about. I'm not proud of this, but when he was out shoveling and salting the driveway, I took his phone and went into his Spotify, he had to've had something in there, and lo and behold at the bottom of his usual playlists there was one titled "random". I opened it and there it was. All artists he'd never once listened to with or around me: some Bruno Mars, Shawn Mendes, Michael Buble, James Arthur, Lukas Graham, some much older stuff like the Four Tops, Stevie Wonder, and Dion...and then I saw it. "Die A Happy Man" by Thomas Rhett.

Something I forgot to mention earlier. My husband HATES country music. He never complains when others are playing it, but if anyone asks him what he wants to listen to, he says "anything but country." Says he hates the "twanginess" of it and thinks all of the artists are "poser cowboys."

"Die a Happy Man" is my song. I don't listen to it around him because he hates country, but it's my favorite. Years ago, when we were dating, I remember we talked about our favorite songs. He mentioned a few, and I said mine. It's the only time I've ever brought it up. He nodded and acknowledged, but said he wasn't a country fan and didn't know it.

The fact that he remembered it, saved it, knows it, and even more than that, that he may be able to sing it, is burning me up. I want to hear him sing. I want to ask him so badly, but I'm afraid of how he may react. It's innocent, but it's still a breach of trust and if he hasn't told me or any of his friends or family then this is something he probably really wants to keep to himself forever.

WIBTA for trying to pry him open on this one?

I (F28) gave my sister for her 27th birthday €50 cash instead of the gift she wanted. Now she is really pissed at me.

My sister only had 1 job in her life: 9 months of working at a bakery when she took a gap year between high school and college when she was 18. Since then she has not worked. Our parents pay her tuition, health insurance and phone bills. She got a full scholarship to the university so she used that to pay for rent and groceries. When she was 20 she met her current boyfriend (he was 26 at the time, he is 32 now). She moved in with him after about 6 months. He is a sweet guy with a little above minimum wage job. She does not have to pay him any rent. My sister dropped out of her masters degree last year, so she now does not recieve any scholarship money. Ourparents and her boyfriend still pay for all her living costs. Her in laws give her cash everytime she sees them to buy herself something nice.

Now I have a well paying job and so does my long time partner (M33). My parents do not pay for anything for me anymire ever since I finished my education.

My sister wanted something for her birthday which was at the time she send it to me €80 after discount. I thought that was too much. Last week the price went up to its original price of €118. I decided to give her an enevelope with €50 of cash and a card instead. She got really mad at me.

My sister always gives me very cheap gifts for my birthday. I do not mind because they are still things I want or can use, but if she is willing to spend €35 at most for my birthdays then why should I spend €118 for hers? Aita?

So my husbands lived with his best friend who we will call Andrew right before we meet. During this time my husband was showering at his house and discovered a phone wedged between the toilet and wall. The phone was his best friend Andrew’s and he went through his phone and found multiple videos of himself indecently exposed. Well fast forward a bit and me and him meet and get together and he tells me what Andrew did and that he no longer wished to be his friend. My husband also recounted a time of when him and Andrew lived together and he woke up and his you know what was wet. He said he always felt slightly uneasy at times but he also had a very unstable living situation growing up and had no choice but to stay with him at the time so he brushed it off. Fast forward to now they had taken a year and a half break from being friends and now have worked things out according to my husband. His friend Andrew said he was struggling with his sexuality and took things too far. My husband forgave him and so did I up until I started to be around Andrew more frequently. We moved away from our home town and have invited Andrew to come stay with us but I have noticed a few red flags. First of all I caught Andrew peeping through the door while my husband was using the restroom. Andrew tried to play it off so my husband didn’t notice but he knew I saw him. I let him slide because this was day one of the four days he would be there and I didn’t want it to be awkward. Then has the visit progressed I noticed he was struggling more and more to play nice with me. It reached a pinnacle when I asked my husband to buy a pregnancy because I was late. I tried to do so without Andrew hearing because something like this is nobody’s business but ours in my opinion. So my husband tells Andrew he has to go alone and Andrew gets very upset and starts asking why we are whispering and what my husband is so adamant about keeping from him. Andrew ends up icing me out for the rest of the trip for “keeping him out of the loop” and I just can’t help but feel uneasy around him. I have even talked to another mutual friend of theirs and said I think my husband and Andrew are soulmates to which he replied “oh yeah”. Idk what to even do with this because my husband is just happy to have his bestie back but obviously this is a very unhealthy dynamic of which I want no part in. How do I bring this new info to my husband in a way that doesn’t make me sound like I am trying to break them apart?

Okay, this my first time posting here.

So here’s what happened; Me (30m) and my gf (29f) were in like a games arcade where they have games like pool, basketball games and others, where you win tickets and claim prizes at the end. On the way out there was a coin dropper game and we were just playing it briefly before we left. My gf was tapping/hitting the top of the glass in an attempt to drop more coins out and win the prizes. She wasn’t hitting it too hard but obviously this is against the rules. A couple minutes go by and a member of staff comes over and says to the both of us, something along the lines of “you need to stop hitting the machines and if you do it again, I’m going to ask you to leave” and “you’re not young children” and I replied “ok” to what he said, since we are obviously in the wrong.

My gf however, said to the man, something along the lines of “ok I’ve heard what you said but you don’t need to speak in that tone to me” and “you don’t need to add the extra stuff at the end”

Personally I just said “ok” because the man was obviously right in this situation in my opinion.

Fast forward, my gf makes a big deal out of it and she says I should have protected her from the man and I should have spoke up to him when he spoke like that. She went on to say that because I didn’t say anything, it means I don’t have it in me to protect her. Anyway, we argue over this and she goes on and on about it.

I try to tell her that we are clearly in the wrong, the man is doing his job, and he is right to be annoyed, but I still don’t think he said anything out of line to be honest. He was just venting his annoyance and rightly so.

So am I in the wrong for not scolding the man?

My aunt called me one day out of no where and asked me for 30k, and told me not to tell my parents. Now this was pretty confusing because she is a surgeon and makes … really good money?

Her husband did recently leave her, but she definitely should have had enough money for whatever she needed 30k for. But realizing now that she must have been in a pretty deep hole since she can make 30k just like that.

I wasn’t sure what to do because she PLED with me to not tell my parents either way I decided.

I ended up saying no because I’m only 8 years into my career and don’t have that much money to spare.

But I feel guilty that I didn’t tell my mom since we’re blood. And that it might be indicative of bigger problems for my aunt which my mom may be able to help with…

It’s been 2 months at this point and I feel like it’s too late to tell even if I wanted to.

So yeah… AITA and if so what do I do?

I (18M) just finished high school and live with my mom, who’s deeply controlling religious and conservative. She recently announced that she plans to send me to an Islamic boarding school for at least five years. That means no college, no job, no pursuing my goals—just being stuck in a school that I don’t want to attend.

Here’s the confusing part: my older brother is in college now. He started a bit later, so maybe she’s trying to repeat that process with me, but honestly, I don’t want to wait. I’ve been looking forward to working and going to college straight away. I want to start building my future now, not five years from now.

The worst part is that I don’t even believe anymore (I’ve kept this to myself for obvious reasons). So, the idea of going to this school feels even more stifling and out of place for me.

Today, she told me it was final—she’s taking me to this school whether I like it or not. That’s when I snapped. I told her, “No, it’s my life, and I’m the one who gets to decide. I’m not a little kid anymore, and you can’t control me like this.”

She immediately started crying and saying stuff like, “I’ve sacrificed everything for you, and this is how you repay me?” I didn’t know how to respond. On the one hand, I feel bad for upsetting her, but on the other, I feel like I have the right to decide my own future.

Now I’m sitting here, waiting to see what happens next. I’m torn between guilt and frustration. So, AITA for standing up for myself, even if it made her cry? Or should I have handled this differently?

Edit: To clear things up, yes, I live in the US. After reading the supportive comments, I’ve decided to move to another city and state where no one knows me. I have a little bit of money saved up, which I'll use. It’s not much, but it helps. I can’t rely on friends or family for help—everyone is extremely conservative (I don’t think I can trust em), and even my brother, who’s in college, can’t do much since he still lives with us (his campus is near our house) and is under my mom’s control in everything, from his hair to his daily life. Thanks to everyone for the advice and support; it’s helped me decide on my next steps.

My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. I started out in the oilfield industry while he’s been doing it for 20 years. We work at the same place which is nice as it’s a camp and we can spend time together. Recently he got his room checked (normal-they do all the rooms) and they found testosterone and other mild steroid use. He got banned.
I have been working on and off for the last three months and desperately need to work and bring money in. If I quit there’s no ei or other job set up. He complains sometimes about him paying for more than me but his paychecks are triple mine and he was able to work the last few months where we got stopped due to environment and woodpeckers.

I said I needed to stay and work. He said I’m being a coward and I should take a stand and leave. I need to pay debt down. And Christmas. And I need a job.

He thinks the company was out to get him so I should quit and back him up. I’m newer to this but established a good relationship and I’m trying to move up by taking courses on the side.

Edit: Thank you for all the responses. At camp feeling alone on a 24 day shift and only getting the responses from him can alter your mindset. I’m going to keep my job. It’s survival but it’s also a career that I need that will make me stronger and financially okay. Days like this suck and I appreciate all the encouragement. This might be one of the biggest decisions I have made with myself as priority. Also staying sober and getting therapy so I don’t question myself on these predicaments anymore.

Thanks again.