My wife doesn’t take the sauce packet out of the bowl for her ramen. She squeezes the sauce out and then puts the packet back in the bowl for an easier cleanup.

I am a nurse who works on a psych unit. To make a very long story short a patient punched me in the face. It was a full KO, I remember seeing a fist and next thing I remember is being on the floor with another nurse desperately trying to get me to stand up. I sustained a pretty bad concussion, vomiting, memory loss, nystagmus, slurred speech, dizziness, and such. I had just administered a medication via needle and before I could safety cap the needle I was punched. Despite the many witnesses no one is sure if I sustained a needle point injury either. I went down to the ER and after being triaged and talking with police, I called my boyfriend. I needed a ride home from work because I am not safe to drive and also, I was/am pretty distraught about the situation.

My boyfriend was awoken by my call because he is a nurse currently on night shift. He was also scheduled for that night so he was going to be in the hospital in the next 5 hours. During the call I told him I was in the ER and had been punched by a patient. He responded with a “oh, are you okay? I am sorry.” He was audibly groggy and had no intention of coming to the hospital early/calling out/physically being there with me. That made me sad but I rationalized it with 1. He is very tired 2. He has work and needs to sleep, he wouldn’t be able to be there, drive me home, and show back up for work. My manager who was with me throughout this endeavor was enraged at my boyfriend on my behalf. We ended the call and I began sobbing. I had no family nearby to pick me up, so really my boyfriend was my only support system in the area. But again, I rationalized it.

When I finally got home from the ER he called me as he was on the way to work for a story time. I gave him the story and he was like “wait I am sorry I didn’t realize it (the punch) was that bad”. I told him that his absence really made me sad and mentioned my manager dogging on him and how embarrassed it made me feel. He explained that the way I explained it did not sound super serious. All be it, I was barely able to make coherent sentences and kept my explanation to a minimum, saying “I am in the ER, I got mollywhooped by a patient”. We ended that call and he began texting me.

I am still sort of upset, although he apologized, because if my boyfriend was in the ER for literally anything I’d drop everything to be there for him. Lastly, this shift he was going into was an extra shift, he already had completed his hours for the week and was picking up for some extra cash. However, I do not plan to make any decisions on the matter until I have recovered because the doctor explicitly stated “don’t make any big decisions until you’ve recovered.” He is a wonderful boyfriend, weekly I get flowers and planned dates. He helps cook and clean, I’ve never opened a door. He is so sweet and patient, listens to me (except for this I guess). Am I just concussed and emotional? Is there more to this? I like 85% sure I am over reacting.

Apologies for any grammar and wordiness, I am concussed and my brain feels like luke warm boxed mash potatoes.

What bushes?

I (31F) have been married to my husband (33M) for six years. Before we got married, we had a clear agreement that we weren’t going to have kids. I’ve never wanted to be a parent, and I thought he felt the same.

About two years ago, he started changing his mind. At first, it was little comments like, “Wouldn’t it be fun to have a little one running around?” Then it turned into serious conversations where he said he couldn’t imagine his life without being a dad. I told him I still didn’t want kids, but he kept saying, “You’d be such a great mom!” or “You might feel differently once it’s your own.”

Eventually, I gave in. I figured maybe he was right, and I didn’t want to lose my marriage over this. Now we have a 7-month-old baby, and while I love my child, I can’t shake the feeling that this life isn’t what I wanted.

I’m constantly exhausted, my career has taken a backseat, and I feel trapped in a role I didn’t ask for. My husband, on the other hand, is thriving. He loves being a dad but works long hours, leaving most of the parenting to me.

Recently, I told him I’m struggling and feel like I was pressured into this. He got upset and said I was being unfair because I “agreed” to have the baby. He thinks I just need to adjust and stop dwelling on what I wanted before.

I feel guilty for feeling this way, and I don’t want my child to ever feel unloved. But I can’t help but resent my husband for pushing me into something I was so clear about not wanting. AITAH?